I’m well on my way to paying off my -$9k credit card debt (Christmas, new Mac and most likely fish tank stuff!). Head down and I’m working hard on both community stuff as well as a couple of new jobs.
I know at some point I’ve got to slow the work down to plan the wedding (October this year). In retrospect I believe that I stuffed it all up. I really liked the idea of a long engagement and I convinced everyone it was a good idea a year ago (I tend to have a knack with manipulation!) but what I’d give to be already married right now!
Christina and I have thought about the budget for our wedding and minus the reception (which our parents are generously covering 50/50) we’re expecting to spend about $25-30k…and that’s all just for one day (well, there’s the honeymoon too).
The money and saving up for the wedding isn’t the only stressful part. Having a max capacity of 200-250 people means we’ve got to be tight with who we can and can’t invite. Both sides of the family could easily bring over 250 people so that means at some point we’ve got to say “no” to our parents inviting their friends and relatives just so Christina and I can bring some of our friends too.
I’ve had a couple of good friends cancel their weddings, the most recent cancellation came quite a bit after wedding invites were sent out! After catching up with both parties I learned a little more about the pressures involved, both financial as well as the question of what and who are you doing it all for.
It’s still early January but I’m feeling like time is flying. I’ve got so much on my plate right now, debts, work, The Wedding and managing everyday things which I’ve always been really shit at (health, cleaning the house, doing the washing, cooking etc!). I’m not kidding myself this time around. I know my relationship with Christina is going to be tested, but for the first time in my life I know where I want to be in the distant future and I also know what it’s going to take to get there. I’m all in!
Dude I feel your pain! Who does not these days though? Those credit cards are savers. But then weight around the neck!
We got married 8 yrs this march. Best day ever! Very tiring but so worth it. We Talk about how great it was alot! Now the thing is my wides folks paid for it as per tradition. I suppose at the time we tool it for granted (a bit) but appreciated fully. We did insist simple though. And it was.
Chin up mate. I’m working to pay off similar debts. So are most others. Just put that air con on and grab a cold one :)
Don’t worry Justin. I am sure you will get on top of everything.
Cheers guys :) Just realised it’s the year of the rabbit too. Got to admit I’m at least semi- superstitious! It’s got to be my year this year!
I just paid all mine off. Wasn’t much, but it feels good afterwards. So + oil!
Awww Justin!! I hope you guys get that big special day you both deserve! It won’t be an easy trek with all the stress, but it’s good to see your head is in the right place and I think that’s a perfect start. Goodluck!! Don’t forget you can call us if you guys need a hand with ANYTHING out west! :-)
i feel better reading it’s not just me cc debt.
keep up the good work JF.
all the best mate
A year ago I would not be able to relate to what you’ve written apart from the frustrations with my CC…
These days, as per our last conversation on NYE, the pressure is on. I’ve only got a 4 more months than you!
Hang in there, I’m sure it’ll all work out like most of your other endeavours~
Oh and BTW, Roxy was serious about helping Christina if she is keen :) http://www.roxy2foxy.com
Thanks Stan :) Have passed the link on! :)