So I had a pretty big win today and I feel quite good about it.
A few months back I had a disagreement with a female moderator on the official r/boudoir subreddit. She deleted a couple of my photos suggesting they were not boudoir, and not empowering women (can of worms). I called her out in public about it and we’ve been civil since but just a few days ago I noticed a pinned post on the boudoir subreddit with the title:
MOD POST: Provide your feedback here ya filthy bastards
To my surprise it was written by the same female mod I had an issue with. Initially I ignored it, but the next day I couldn’t help but respond. This is what I wrote:
Considering there’s 40,000 members on this subreddit and you’ve only had 6 replies to this pinned post I do believe there is a potential problem, but labelling your audience “filthy bastards” and taking into consideration that surely not all your 40,000 followers are men, nor are they all filthy bastards, probably doesn’t help?
I’m a full time boudoir photographer and shooting is my livelihood. IE: It pays for my bills and food and my work also helps my clients make money to thrive and in many cases survive. As a male boudoir photographer I take offence to being called a filthy bastard, and fail to see how that kind of language fits in to boudoir which (to me) is all about the art and being classy.
I’ve since kicked off my own boudoir subreddit but earlier today I got a message from a guy who was once a moderator of the official boudoir subreddit. He took over it when it had 10K followers and grew it to 37K before asking the new moderators to join as he didn’t have enough time to run it. He’s since found more time and he’s now running a smaller private boudoir subreddit just for professionals. He found the post I posted above and sent me a message to invite me to join. I’m chuffed, and consider it a win!